So what do you do if your kid has ADHD and you're a consistant nag in monitoring unacceptable behavior, but you are a jerk in the process? I am the jerk. My dynamics with my son are bad. He cannot help his behavior but it is largely obsessive and mostly, sociably unacceptable.
My goal is consistency and good behavior. Guess what? This leads to frustration and poor interaction with an ADHD kid. Oh, and poor self esteem for the kid and for the parent. So,I feel like a total horror of a parent because it has become hard to muster a vaguely civilized tone with the kid. Thus, the kid feels like crap and I feel like crap and we all come across as horribly out-of-control and that I am a consummate nasty parent whose kid will need years of therapy to address my resenting his uncivilized behavior. I feel horrible.
ADHD is real and it is hard. On kids and parents. I hate the way I react with my son. I am not sure of how to escape the rut that has claimed me.
The cleansing power of song
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Last night we gathered to spend a couple of hours singing Christmas Carols.
I went, not sure of how I would feel. Besides the fact that I have my limits
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I too am a nag by nature. I too have an ADHD child. We punished him like crazy for his unacceptable behavior until he was diagnosed 9 months ago at the age of 6 w/ADHD. It is often difficult to remember that they can't help their behavior in the heat of the moment. My son takes stimulants so he can succeed in school. But times like first thing in the morning, trying to get dressed for school while he is literally bouncing off the walls and not yet medicated is not fun. Sometimes I yell in the hopes to finally get his attention. I have learned tasks like these are best handled by making a game out of it. I have also learned to focus on all the wonderful and special things about him. ADHD children just experience the world differently from the "norm." Different isn't all bad...
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